Advice for parents from parents
During this transitional season of graduations, parents of both high school and college seniors are gearing up for more change. We asked parents of graduating NNU seniors to share some advice and perspective with parents of high school grads.
1. While the natural tendency is to have your student plan out the next four years of their life and then religiously stick to it, it doesn’t always happen that way. But that's all right! Studies have shown that about 80% of college students change their major at least once during their education.
“Be prepared for your student to change majors, even if they are very set on a particular one. Don’t be frustrated, this is very normal” says Pam, mother of Brandt.
2. There also comes a time when parents must “cut the cord.” This means letting their students begin doing things on their own, and yet it’s also important that they know you’re there for them.
“Stop doing things for them. Make sure they know how to do laundry, iron, do dishes, clean the bathroom, hang up their clothes, keep their area uncluttered, make their own arrangements for things that come up, get their own papers into the colleges themselves” shares Janet, mother of Elisa. She continues, “Keep sending mail and packages. Nothing says ‘love’ like a package from home.”
3. It seems like all it took was the blink of an eye for your student to reach this point in their life, and in another blink you’ll be attending another graduation. This is why it is very important to enjoy the precious time you have now with your student.
“These four years go by so very fast. Enjoy every moment with your students to the fullest!” says Laurie, mother of Samantha.
4. The transition to college is a time when students learn a lot about themselves. This is exciting and should be encouraged. You don’t have to worry because NNU has support systems in place to help provide assistance when needed.
“Be supportive but don’t hover; let them take the lead” shares Todd, father of Samantha.
5. This is a time that you have been preparing for; trust in all you’ve invested in your student. Trust God’s hand in their life, trust in the positive and safe environment of NNU. This will lessen much of the worry and allow you to enjoy this time of transition.
“Yes, this is an event that may bring a few tears, but is it one to be celebrated too. If we focus on celebrating this awesome opportunity that our student has, to attend such a wonderful university, and all of the hard work that they invested in reaching this goal, it will take some of the sting out of experiencing an empty nest and allow our students to transition with joy and the feeling of being fully supported,” offers Michelle, mother of Jessica.